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Thursday, December 15, 2011


Anniversaries are a time when we are reminded to reflect – A time to look back and see what has happened, where we have been, and where we are now.

Today is the 3rd anniversary of my former husband's death.  I miss him.  I miss not being able to call him and share a memory, or tell him a story that only he and I would understand.  But this anniversary I am not overwhelmed with sadness about his death. Instead I know I am closer to making my peace with it.

As I was reminded today by a remarkable friend, Steve's time here helped shape me into the person I have become.  Without him I would not be as strong, I would not be as centered, and I would not have grown as much as I have over the last six and a half years.  

That is what I hold on to now – the incredible lesson he taught me.  As hard as it was to learn, it was exactly what I needed and is what keeps me moving forward in life.  Thank you Stevie.  My heart is always with you.


  1. Valerie,
    This brought tears to my eyes. You know 2 of my 3 best friends have had their husbands pass as well - one only 3 months ago. She says the same things you do. I feel for you brave girl.

  2. Thank you Cathy. That was very kind of you.

  3. Nicely said, Val. All the best!

  4. Thinking of you, you my friend.

  5. I'm sure it is hard, Val! The memories we all have of Steve are sweet! God's Blessings to you! We love you - Cristi

  6. Thank you Kate and Cristi. Love you both and hope you are well!